Hello. Thank you for the opportunity to ask your question. I am no longer a young woman, I have been married twice and divorce was twice on my initiative. Now I have been dating a man for almost 2 years. Each of us has our own adult children, who themselves have families.

I know and believe that nothing happens just like that, that the Lord brought us together at exactly the right time for each of us. We don’t live together, but as a woman I try to serve him: I cook something tasty when we meet, sometimes I give small gifts, I try to understand him in some ways, I treat him sincerely. I want to live together as husband and wife.

At the moment, he does not want to live together, apparently, he is satisfied with this situation. He treats me well, but at times it seems to me that he is using me, that I am just convenient for him and that’s all. I tried to talk to him about our relationship, he told me that he was attracted to me, and that’s all. To be honest, it’s very difficult for me psychologically with such a man, we are very different. I can’t understand why this man was given to me?

I don’t want to break off the relationship myself. I can't figure out what lesson I should take with him? I understand if we lived together as a family, otherwise we are partners, one might say. What should I do, please advise.

On the one hand, if you feel a consumer attitude towards yourself, and not like a man towards a woman, then maybe it’s worth breaking off the relationship with him? But, on the other hand, I cannot part with him, I am also drawn to him. He doesn’t want to start a family, doesn’t want to live together. What should I do and how should I approach this, please tell me.