Features of relationships in our time. Lecture 1 (2013)
00:00:00 prolegomena
• Meeting with lecturer Oleg Gennadievich Torsunov.
• The lecture is based on ancient texts and explains the structure of a person from the position of anatomy and psyche.
00:01:59 The subtle structure of the human being
• The Vedas explain that there are three structures of the psyche: mind, heart and soul.
• The mind controls the entire human body and psyche.
• Fate and mood are in the mind.
00:08:46 Relationship between man and woman
• Family life is intended for exams, not for enjoyment.
• Fate binds husband and wife together, and they must be prepared for difficulties.
• Happiness in relationships arises because of good karma and selfless actions.
00:15:48 Karma and love
• Discussion of the law of karma and its influence on relations with the world.
• Mention of the defensive position and the need to study the causes of pain.
00:18:29 Love and harmony
• The idea that you need to love him to understand a person.
• Discussion of the influence of female energy on men and their reaction to women.
00:24:02 Harmony and good karma
• Harmony between a man and a woman causes a good fate.
• Mention that good karma ends in 1-3 years of family relations.
00:29:28 Differences between a man and a woman
• A woman is sensitive to words and emotions, a man is to the essence and meaning.
• When the energy of happiness between a man and a woman ends, suffering begins.
00:33:57 The role of reason and emotions in relationships
• Reason controls life, emotions cause suffering.
• It is useless to prove to a loved one, as this causes pain.
00:39:54 Differences in needs and desires
• A man gives a woman stability and protection, a woman needs protection and beauty.
• A man easily part with money, a woman is hard to part with her money and her own, and her husband.
00:44:43 Differences between men and women
• Women earn hard, but they take it with pain, men are fine.
• Women need stability, men want love.
00:46:34 The influence of female energy on a man
• A woman torments a man with her energy, a man torments a woman with her energy.
• In what cases does a woman bring happiness, and in what cases - suffering?
00:50:02 Feminine energy and family development
• A woman creates conditions for the development of a man, putting her strength into him.
• A man should not do anything for development, a woman must direct her energy into development.
00:53:03 Selfless love and happiness in your personal life
• The selfless love of a woman makes her happy in her personal life, but this requires a strong character.
• A man becomes happy when he unselfishly gives a woman his protection.
00:56:10 The Importance of Strength and Disinterestedness in Family Life
• The question of where to take strength for a happy family life is important.
• The second question is how to make sure that a loved one does not become impudent.
• Family life is intended for the most difficult exams, and all people face difficulties.
00:58:45 Selfless love and its influence on relationships
• Selfless love is when a woman gives love, and a man - protection.
• It is important to understand that unselfishness is not just a lack of gratitude, but the ability to give love without waiting for gratitude.
• If a woman cooks food and a man does not thank, this is not a disinterested act.
01:00:22 Love for children and its influence on their development
• We do not love anyone but ourselves, and this is important to understand.
• We love our children, but our love is of a mercenary nature, which can cause suffering.
• If we love our children, they become selfish and self-satisfied.
• It is important to learn selfless love to help children grow and develop.
01:03:50 Maternal love and its influence on the child
• The video discusses how maternal love can be used to enjoy a child, which can lead to his arrogance and selfishness.
• The mother must know how to love her child properly so that he can develop and be happy.
01:10:51 Attachment and ignorance in relationships
• Attachment based on selfishness leads to suffering and relationship problems.
• Ignorance in relationships is manifested in the fact that people consider their property to be their own and cannot live with other people without serving them with their love energy.
01:14:26 Reason and destiny
• Reason is designed to change fate and defeat it, and not just go with the flow.
• Reasonable people learn how to build relationships properly so that they never get bad and study their shortcomings.
01:17:42 Selfishness and its influence on relationships
• The Vedas say that selfishness is the most subtle part of the human psyche that penetrates his consciousness and does not allow him to understand anything bad about himself.
• The only way to understand the truth about yourself is the relationship that has a mentor and one who listens.
01:25:13 Relationships and their impact on happiness
• The Vedas distinguish three types of relationships that lead a person to happiness: the elder, friend and junior.
• In a relationship with a mentor, a person can learn about their shortcomings and accept them with love.
• In undeveloped relationships, such as enjoying each other, there is no love and stability, and they are doomed to failure.
01:27:06 family relationships and truth
• In family relationships where people enjoy each other, the truth can destroy the family.
• In developed family relationships, where there is love and care, the truth can be said with love and understanding.
01:30:29 Talk about affection and relationships
• The video discusses how people enjoy each other and how it affects their relationship.
• It is said that if a person enjoys another, then he will not listen to him and will not listen to his austerity.
01:34:08 Reflections on attachment and family life
• It is discussed that most people understand love only sex and enjoying each other, which leads to suffering in family life.
• It is explained that affection between people arises on its own and makes them vulnerable and dependent on a loved one.
01:39:14 The influence of a woman's mood on family life
• It is said that a woman's mood changes in waves, and this affects her ability to give energy to love.
• Discuss how a man can make a woman happy by paying attention and care to her.
01:42:34 Attachment and happiness
• Women and men have difficulty maintaining a good mood and attention to each other, as this requires effort and austerity.
• Attachment to a loved one causes a desire to constantly experience happiness from him, which can lead to suffering.
01:45:53 Causes of scandals and suffering
• Scandals arise because one of the partners does not give the other what he needs, or vice versa.
• Attachment causes pain in the heart when a person wants the same thing as yesterday, but does not receive it.
• Attachment to children can also cause suffering, as children cannot always give as much love as we want.
• It is important to learn to recognize your selfishness and work on yourself to be happy and not depend on the mood and actions of other people.
01:48:53 Raising children and relationships with loved ones
• The video discusses how parents can become attached to their children and use them for their happiness.
• It is said that it is important not to pamper children and not to enjoy their presence, but to educate them so that they become good people.
01:55:20 Selfishness and family life
• The video emphasizes that family life is not only a pleasure, but also a test.
• It is said that a woman becomes deeper and brighter with age, and a man can love her more, despite the loss of physical strength and beauty.
• It is discussed that it is important to understand and accept the difficulties and problems that may arise in family life.
02:01:32 Love and Relationships
• Love is caring for a loved one, not enjoying his body.
• Love means accepting the shortcomings of a loved one and revealing his inner beauty.
02:04:00 dependence on others and karmic connections
• People cannot help each other, as they have one karma.
• The Vedas say that a person can only receive happiness from God and holy people.
02:08:51 Faith and service
• Faith in a holy man gives strength to defeat the karma of the family.
• Faith in a person and serving him is the basis of a pure relationship.
02:14:07 Love and knowledge
• Love is possible only in the presence of knowledge and service.
• In life, we gain knowledge through work, films and television, but not always correct.
02:16:04 The problem of human life
• The author discusses that the purpose of human life is to gain knowledge of how to live, since we are not dogs and cats who enjoy sex and relationships.
• He emphasizes that we are able to spiritualize our lives, but we do not know what it is, and we do not live in such a relationship.
02:19:00 ministry and gratitude
• The author explains that when a person serves a loved one, gratitude gives the opportunity to listen to the truth about himself.
• He also says that when people begin to serve each other, their relationship becomes honest and sincere.
02:23:45 Selfishness and shortcomings
• The author discusses how selfishness makes you see flaws in loved ones and not see them in yourself.
• He emphasizes that for happiness in family life, it is necessary to win the desire to exploit each other and start serving each other.
02:29:09 Reflections on men and women
• The video discusses problems in relationships between men and women based on selfishness and misunderstanding of their roles.
• Men must learn to enjoy spiritual practice and fight for their fate, and women should serve their husbands and children.
02:30:56 Importance of self-improvement
• Men should go forward to self-improvement, and women should be directed to their husbands.
• When a man turns to self-improvement, a woman becomes happy, and when a man turns to a woman, she becomes unhappy.
02:35:43 Love and Relationships
• Love is the knowledge and ability to calm and support your wife when it is hard for her.
• When a man calms his wife, he does not experience pleasure, but does it with the last of his strength.
02:39:45 Love and fidelity
• The video explains that true love manifests itself when it is difficult for a loved one, and not when it is good for both.
• Loyalty occurs when a man takes care of a woman, despite her bad mood or problems.
02:42:50 Modern culture and understanding of love
• Modern culture does not understand what love is, and does not develop spiritual life.
• This leads to the fact that people do not reach true love and suffer from it.
02:46:47 inner life and relationships
• The inner life and relationship between husband and wife should be based on prayer and the desire for happiness to each other.
• It is important to remember the holiness and faith in your loved ones in order to maintain and develop relationships.
02:52:24 Prayer for the service of the holy man
• The author asks to bow to the holy man mentally and asks to serve him within himself.
• He says that the holy man wants everyone to be happy and forget about himself.
02:53:23 Repetition of the phrase "I wish everyone happiness"
• The author repeats the phrase "I wish everyone happiness" aloud and inside of me, imagining a holy man.
• He explains that this activity helps to forget about himself and serve others.
02:56:08 finishing prayer
• The author ends the prayer, repeating the phrase "I wish everyone happiness" again.
• He thanks the audience for their presence and support.
