Raising children (2009)
00:00:28 Child education and affection
• The video discusses the difficulties of raising children, especially for women who have a strong attachment to their children.
• Attachment to children can lead to selfishness and desire to enjoy happiness from them, which can be dangerous for relationships and upbringing.
00:10:18 way out of the situation
• The way out of the situation is to serve your partner, first to the husband, and then to the children.
• Service and care for others can lead to happiness and harmony in relationships.
00:11:12 Raising children and happiness
• Parents do not want much from their children, it is enough that they are and respect them.
• Parents who want a lot from their children can ruin their lives and the opportunity to be happy.
00:12:42 fosterage
• It is important to be unattached to what will happen to the child and become a person who is calm about his development.
• Parents need to think of a child as a joy, not about what they want from him.
00:16:42 Four directions of life and inclination
• A child may have different inclinations, such as being a scientist, a businessman, craft or fight.
• Parents should be given the opportunity to develop in the direction that is interesting to the child.
00:22:01 Harmonious development and understanding of children
• Harmoniously developed personalities are not all the same, and each child has its own inclinations.
• Parents need to understand that they do not know exactly who their child will be, and give him the opportunity to develop on his own.
00:26:12 enjoyment and work on yourself
• Parents should enjoy at home, not force their children to work on themselves.
• It is important that parents work on themselves and serve each other so that children can enjoy and develop in a healthy direction.
00:28:14 fosterage
• The child's psyche is formed in the conditions of relations between parents.
• If the mother does not respect her husband, the child will be dissatisfied and not satisfied with his parents.
00:30:55 Relationship between man and woman
• A man must respect and take care of a woman so that the family is harmonious.
• If a man does not respect a woman, the child grows up with a stone heart and does not learn to obey.
00:36:19 parenting and relationships between parents
• The relationship between mother and father is the most difficult and important part of raising children.
• If parents are strongly attached to the child, he grows up selfish and does not develop his mind.
• The family is created in order to pay off their debt to children, and not just to enjoy each other.
00:38:15 Conception and children
• Having sex - preparation for conceiving a child, the accumulation of psychic energy.
• If a woman does not conceive a child, she becomes unsatisfied and angry, like a shepherd.
• There are two ways to have children: conceive or dedicate yourself to society and control your feelings.
00:43:48 determination of the number of children
• If the husband rushes at his wife, then another child is needed.
• If the wife rushes, then it doesn't hurt the child to call?
• If you control your feelings and develop yourself, you can have an exalted soul.
00:44:48 fosterage
• The first type of mind is a scientist, the second type is from the rulers.
• Children are born selfish and withdrawn, prone to violence and management.
• The educational system should develop good character traits, not just the mind.
• The first type of people should be sent to theological seminaries, the second type - to intellectual circles in martial arts.
00:48:18 Types of children
• Children who are inclined to manage their money and develop their ability to give it away.
• Children prone to communication develop relationships and learn to be friends.
• Children who are prone to creative work love to craft and want to have their own corner in life.
• Children prone to learning develop their knowledge and learn to be honest and compassionate.
00:52:36 child development
• It is important to develop children at home, and not motivate them with grades at school.
• Mind development occurs when a child learns what he likes, not what he needs for assessments.
• Brilliant children may not know what they need in life, but they create their own environment and live in it.
• Parents need to develop themselves in order to inspire children to develop.
• The child must look for his place in life, change circles and sections, and not interfere with him in this.
01:00:11 Music teaching
• The author says that learning to music can discourage children if they strive for a diploma or the name of a teacher.
• He emphasizes the importance of finding a real musician who can teach a child and make him a strong musician.
01:01:10 Education and personal development
• The author talks about what is important to understand correctly, what to teach children, and to give them to an environment where they can develop as individuals.
• He notes that it is not difficult to learn mathematics, physics or English, but it is important not to overload with information and not break their psyche with information.
01:03:09 Asthenic syndrome and overloading with information
• The author says that many children suffer from asthenic syndrome due to overloading information, and this prevents them from developing and working on themselves.
• He criticizes the modern education system, which requires children to know a lot of information that they do not need in life.
01:03:46 versatile child development
• Versatile development means that the child, despite his physical and mental strength, is humble and generous.
• Versatile development includes the development of reason, kindness, humility and cordiality.
01:09:58 Raising children and six enemies of man
• Parents should protect their children from six enemies: lust, greed, anger, illusion, envy and madness.
• Education should be based on love, explanation, suspension and acceptance of the child as he is.
01:12:36 Infantilism and how to avoid it
• Infantilism can be the result of a wrong lifestyle of parents, especially if they lead an unreasonable life.
• If parents lead the right life, they can give birth to a reasonable child who will be the source of happiness and joy for them.
01:15:10 Karma and children
• Children are born to work out the karma of parents, and not just for happiness.
• Karma can manifest through children if the parents were cruel or had greed.
01:20:00 Respect for elders and upbringing of children
• Respect for elders is an important aspect of raising children.
• If the child does not respect parents, you need to explain to him the reasons and try to improve the relationship.
• Love for children is the care, understanding and granting of freedom for development.
01:23:43 Raising girls and boys
• Girls need tenderness and care, and boys need freedom and the ability to make mistakes.
• Parents should try to give every child the opportunity to become who he should be.
01:25:04 fosterage
• The video discusses various types of child-raising, as well as how women and men develop their relationships and abilities.
• Women are prone to developing deep relationships such as friendship, love and family ties, while men develop duty, responsibility and work relationships.
01:28:11 The impact of education on happiness
• Women experience more happiness from family relationships, while men experience outside activities.
• If a woman does not invest in her husband and family, she may feel inferior and unhappy.
01:30:01 Punishment and upbringing of children
• The video discusses the importance of punishment and upbringing of children, as well as how it affects their development and behavior.
• Punishment must be concrete and fair so that the child understands that his actions have consequences.
01:34:12 Grandparents in raising children
• Grandparents can enjoy communication with children, arrange holidays for them and enjoy their presence.
• It helps children feel loved and protected, and grandparents to enjoy their lives and enjoy communication with their grandchildren.
01:35:09 parenting and relationships with parents
• The video discusses the importance of respect for grandparents who can be involved in raising their grandchildren.
• It is important that grandparents do not interfere in raising children, but only give advice and support.
• If parents do not listen to the advice of grandparents, this can lead to family problems.
01:37:24 Problems with children and their impact on others
• The video discusses the problem where parents do not notice the negative traits of their children and see them as an ideal.
• In such cases, other parents may make a remark, but this can cause anger and unwillingness of parents to accept criticism.
01:39:13 intimate spheres of life and intervention
• The video emphasizes the importance of respect for the intimate spheres of life and the undesirability of interference in them.
• If you know about the infidelity of your friend's wife, it is better to remain silent and not interfere in their relationship.
01:40:43 Raising children and relationships with loved ones
• It is important to be careful in dealing with loved ones, especially when it comes to family problems.
• If a person sees that his loved ones behave incorrectly, he must accept it and not be angry, but try to help them.
• If a person begins to get angry and attack loved ones, this only worsens the situation.
01:46:51 Choice and upbringing of children
• It is important to choose children who have the potential for development and can be adapted to your family.
• If the child has mental disabilities, it is better to leave him in an orphanage, but if he has a normal intellect, it should be taken and help him develop.
01:50:06 Relationships in the family and upbringing of children
• It is important to follow the rules of behavior in the family in order to maintain peace and harmony.
• If parents behave delicately and carefully, the children will respect them and obey.
• If a man behaves gently and gently towards his wife and children, they will appreciate and respect him.
• It is important not to apologize to children if their authority is not unquestioning, as this can cause even more problems.
01:53:36 attitude towards suffering
• The speaker emphasizes that despite the suffering that can be caused by children, one must treat them humbly and accept fate.
• He also mentions that if you start to hate a child for his behavior, it can only aggravate the situation.
01:55:20 upbringing and courage
• The speaker explains that in order to raise a brave person, you need to show an example and not protect yourself, but protect others.
• He emphasizes that courage means the ability to soberly assess the situation and protect yourself.
01:57:50 Love and hugs
• The speaker explains the difference between love and pleasure when it comes to hugs.
• He claims that hugging a child with love and a desire for happiness for him is one thing, and hugging him with pleasure is another.
01:59:24 HAPPENHAY ALL
• The speaker encourages everyone to wish happiness, as it helps to get rid of suffering and become happy.
