Hello, Oleg Gennadievich!
I really count on your help. I am haunted by the fear that all men just want to sit on my neck. It all started in childhood. When my dad died, I was 7 years old. A year or two later, my mother got a man. At first, they had everything like everyone else, but over time, mom began to complain about the lack of help from him.
My mother raised my sister and me alone, working three jobs. She complained that she did not receive any financial help from him. Moreover, he always came to us just to eat and never brought anything. It got to the point that my mother would give him money for gas if we needed to go somewhere. Their relationship lasted about 10 years. After much reproach from my mother, they separated. I remembered him the way he came to us and went to the kitchen to eat.
The years passed. I met a man, at first we talked, met, then he started coming to us, and history repeated itself. He practically lived with us and never brought anything. Even for tea. I broke up with him. The problem is that this prevents me from building relationships not only personal, but also at work. There was a fear that everyone was using me or wanted to use me.
It seems to me that my men always owe me. It always seems to me that they do nothing for me, do not take financial responsibility for me. I always throw tantrums on this basis. I feel sorry for myself that I am everything to a man, and he is nothing to me. I always beg them with tears for financial support. When I get what I want, I make a note to myself that this good man helps me, supports me.
I understand that I’m wrong, but I don’t know how to work with it. I can't build strong relationships. I live in an attempt to prove that my man does everything for me. How can I work on myself?