If a crisis is coming in a relationship, there is no need to seek support from loved ones. This time must be devoted to the inner life.
The Vedic scriptures say that you can be happy in a relationship all your life. However, we often do not know how to properly build family happiness. In the modern world, marriage is depreciated. It's easier for people to disperse than to work on relationships. For this reason, divorces have ceased to be a rarity. Some argue that the institution of the family has exhausted itself, and thoughts about the preservation of marriage are smacking out of date ideas about life.
One way or another, we experience the greatest happiness and suffering in family life. So, if a crisis occurs in a relationship and a person cannot cope with it, leaves his loved one, then in the following relations he will receive the same difficulties, but from another person. At the same time, fate will act in such a way that his suffering will not end until he realizes his mistakes. In the Vedas, this is called the development of karma (fate). Therefore, in order not to run from a bad fate, it is very important to understand how to build relationships with a loved one.
What should be done if a crisis has begun in the family? You need to learn to live a spiritual life. Every day to pray, to revive a good memory of a loved one. Then the heat will go into the relationship, the ice in the heart will begin to melt. At the same time, one must try to serve a loved one, regardless of their grievances. Take care of him, fulfill his duties and try not to disturb him with his problems. If so, then the crisis will gradually pass. Every day, putting our energy into relationships, we make them stronger. Even if one person in the family prays, the relationship will be saved.
“The problem is that people, even when they hear about it, don’t want to do it. There are a thousand reasons: once, no time, no strength, and so on. A thousand reasons not to live, but every person has to suffer. No strength - listen to spiritual music, lectures. You feel inspired, start praying. Don't let fate deal with you. Don't let her destroy the family. If the cold has gone in a relationship, there was a feeling that a loved one can change you, then you need to pray. Jealousy in this case will not help, it's just a stinginess, - sums up Oleg Gennadievich.
The Vedas say that a stingy person is worried, and the reasonable prays. When a person can overcome a crisis with the help of prayer and work on himself, happiness comes to him as a reward.
- Ordinary happiness is when a relationship has become a little better. But when a person passed the lower wave, then what happens to him? He flies to the springboard. That is, there is just an explosion of relations. Happiness comes to life as a reward for work, - explains Oleg Torsunov.
If a person constantly prays, even if everything is fine in his family, this relationship becomes even better. It is important not to enjoy them at this time, but to live in prayer further, to give it to others. Pray for those who feel bad, help them, but if you feel bad, you won't be able to help others. The one who has the power can help. When there is no support from loved ones, it can always be obtained from God.
What is the formula for victory over fate? If I always blame a loved one for everything, then it is impossible to win fate. This is hopelessness. The second option: I accuse a loved one, but I understand that I am wrong and I am learning to look for my shortcomings. In this case, there is an exit. The third option: I understand that only I myself am to blame, and what a loved one does wrong is my exams. And I'm giving them. But I'm to blame for everything. When a person comes to this understanding, there is no chance that he will lose. He will only win, - explains Oleg Gennadievich.
The main thing that you need to understand when it becomes very difficult for us is not to look for support from loved ones. At this moment, we must understand that loved ones have already given us everything they owed. You don't have to think that they should help at this moment. This is the most common mistake. When resentment accumulates in the heart, a loved one cannot bear it. He begins to pull away, there is a cold in the relationship. Therefore, when a crisis occurs in the family, the first thing to do is to leave close people alone. The second is to begin to live an inner life.
- We need to learn how to live. Be afraid to blame the other person. In such a situation, there is no chance to correct the situation. However, when a person confesses and seeks protection from higher powers, then his fate will begin to change for the better. There is no doubt about this. We just need to learn to live a real life - to pray and forgive everyone in our hearts, - emphasizes Oleg Torsunov.
When a person begins to pray to God, to bow to holy people, to remember his loved one kindly, the knowledge comes to his heart that a loved one is not to blame for anything. Such moments in life sober up a person, give him a chance to understand how to live correctly, how to communicate correctly, how to build relationships. At this time, a person takes exams of fate. And only God can help him in this. Close people will not be able to help, like friends. In the life of every person, inevitably, there comes a moment when you need to look inside yourself and understand how I live, what I have come to.
Source: Lecture «How to take care of loved ones. How to overcome family selfishness. September 26, 2014, Anapa.
