Oleg Torsunov: “For a person who works on himself, there are no defeats inthis life. Sometimes this path is difficult, but it is always victorious. When a person has passed all the exams, he becomes happy.”
How to get married? This is one of the most popular questions asked to Oleg Gennadievich. After all, many girls intellectually understand that it’s high time for them to marry, but there are still no contenders for their hand and heart. Having listened to enough advice from girlfriends and mothers, they walk around cafes and make eye contact at work, but, as a rule, only frivolous ones turn up, and for some reason those who would like to start a family are bypassed.
What's the matter? Why do some people get married and others not? In this article we will try to answer these questions and analyze what the asceticism of a girl who wants to find a husband consists of.
You can't develop by dreaming
The first thing that such a girl must understand is that if there is no boyfriend, and the years go by, this indicates at least the following things:
- little piety. If a girl is pious enough, she gets married at 20 and doesn’t even think about finding a husband;
- cold moon. Such a girl, as a rule, cannot communicate with the opposite sex, avoids the company of men for a long time (up to 25 years), does not experience deep feelings and sometimes even slight sympathy, and does not become attached to anyone with her heart. Often such girls, even having met a guy, doubt for a long time whether this is her person, because they do not feel love inside;
- lack of feminine qualities: inability to cook, inability to speak kindly and softly, indifference to children, and, conversely, developed masculine qualities: responsibility, assertiveness, desire to win;
- heavy karma. This means that in this life it will be difficult to find a husband, because, apparently, you did something wrong in a past life and now you are paying for it with loneliness.
All this prevents you from getting married. Typically, who is most concerned about this issue? Girls brought up according to the male type, for whom it costs nothing to propose to a guy just to close this issue (male thinking), seductive girls who, in search of love, periodically look for it in restaurants and nightclubs, and girls in rose-colored glasses who They believe that the prince on a white horse will gallop in and marry them, despite their inability to cook and clean.
At the same time, most of them think that everything is fine with them, so they create in their heads a composite sketch of their future husband, who should be able to do everything and carry her in his arms. As the famous song says:
Чтоб не пил, не курил и цветы всегда дарил,
В дом зарплату отдавал, тещу мамой называл,
Был к футболу равнодушен, а в компании не скучен,
И к тому же, чтобы он и красив был, и умен.
This song is the anthem of all girls who dream of a happy marriage. However, dreams are not a way to live. They enslave a person and do not give him the opportunity to conquer his fate.
—An ignorant life means waiting for happiness. When people live like this, that is, they wait for happiness, they simply live in a dream and, as a result, suffer. If a girl wants to get married, but does nothing for it, but just dreams, then she will be the most unhappy ofwomen. If she dreams like this all her life, she will never get married, notes Oleg Gennadievich.
What to do?
First of all, you need to leave your dream alone. You need to understand that a dream is just a direction in life and should not be confused with life. As they say, you don’t have to look at the road, you have to follow it. And for a woman to follow the road means to give up love and begin to serve everyone around her.
A woman is made of tenderness, care, kindness, forbearance, the ability to forgive, the ability to appreciate a person and believe in him. These are the natural feminine qualities that she herself wants to enjoy in life. Therefore, she requires tenderness, care, affection, and attention from everyone. However, the Vedas say that a woman should leave this idea in her heart and begin to serve everyone herself.
Some say: “If I had someone to serve, I would serve.” But this is the wrong approach in life. We must give our love to those whom God has already given. He gave you girlfriends, which means you need to serve them with love. Gave parents, which means you need to serve them and forgive them with love. He gave her a dog to serve with love. However, it is very difficult to serve, because you want happiness. I want to take, not give. But this is the only way to victory over fate. You yourself need love, and you forget about it and serve everyone around you, and when you stop constantly thinking about marriage, God will definitely give you a good man.
—It is very difficult for a woman to be affectionate and gentle, because if someone reacted even slightly wrongly, thensheimmediately resentment arises and you don’t want to do anything. Iam sotenderand he! We must overcome this feeling within ourselves and move forward again, serve again, take care of everyone around us, be Cinderella, and not desire rewards for ourselves. Graduallyyou will notice that dreams go awayand the feeling of “I want to get married” calms down in your heart. This does not mean that it disappears, it means that it stops tormenting, explains Oleg Torsunov.
When does everything change?
When this feeling calms down in her heart, the girl begins to enjoy everything in life, becomes kind, affectionate, and beautiful. Her face shines, her eyes sparkle! She becomes happy even without marriage. Who doesn't need a girl like that? That's when she has the opportunity to attract a man. At the same time, she will no longer look at him as a walking sadness, but as a queen. Suitors will appear and she will begin to choose. And among them there will be only one who will be worthy of her love. How to recognize him? He will behave very calmly and reservedly, will not evoke feelings of crazy passion, will try to win her, will help her and take responsibility for her.
If you are looking for quick results, then this path is not for you. But if you decide, an amazing result awaits you!
- Your development as a woman
- a worthy husband, not a cancer without fish,
- moral and spiritual foundations in relationships,
- and therefore a happy family life.
After all, with a worthy person it is easier to create a harmonious family, especially when you have the knowledge + skill of serving and caring for loved ones. This is a win-win path, but it requires a lot of mental strength. This is female asceticism, which a girl must perform in order to become happy, otherwise she cannot defeat fate. After all, it’s not enough to get married; you then need to save the family, fill it with joy and care, mutual understanding and support.
But if you want to know when you will finally get married, then the answer is: when you pass the exam. The Vedas say that this world was created not for happiness, but for passing exams, in other words, working off karma. What they deserved is what they got. However, everything can be changed if there is knowledge. Even if you are not destined for a husband (and astrologers confirm this), you can still start a family! But for this you need not only to serve and take care of people, give them your warmth and thereby reduce bad karma, but also pray. In this case, God will definitely give you a good person, because you will be very dear to Him.
— There are no defeats in this life, there is simply the right path. Sometimes it is hard, but it is alwaysvictorious. When a person has passed all the exams, he becomes happy. Becauseonly the one who does not want to go to the mountain that God gave him is unhappy. Climb this mountain and accept your life, and then you will be happy forever. Such a person will be much happier than all those who want indulgences in life. But we don't want to work for only one reason: wevery much want to enjoy the results, although we have not yet earned them. This is called stinginess of the heart, emphasizes Oleg Gennadievich.
Why does God give trials? Why doesn't He give you a husband? Because He wants to show you that you have the wrong attitude towards life. But if you rebel against the consumerist “everything is for me” mentality, break away from yourself and start a good life, then you will get a victory. For a person who works on himself, there are no defeats in this world, but only victories. There are simply stubborn people and very stubborn ones, but sooner or later they all come to the conclusion that happiness cannot be achieved so easily. All exams are given to us according to karma, because this is exactly the kind of life we need.
Start serving your parents, grandmothers and neighbors who are in need, feed homeless animals, help orphans, and you will gain so much piety that a line of suitors will line up for you. And if it doesn’t line up, don’t worry. It's just the amount of work you do on yourself. Keep evolving. By receiving the blessings of these people simply from their good memory of you, that you took such good care of them, you will be able to find yourself a worthy person who will make you happy. Happiness is not a cheap thing and you have to fight for it.
