Life in love. Lecture 1 (2018)
00:00:12 Discussion of family and relationships
• Oleg Gennadievich discusses the topic of family and relationships, emphasizing that family is a working out of karma and an opportunity for a person to learn to love and accept others.
• He also says that the family can be a test of trauma and an opportunity for a person to learn to accept the worldview of a loved one.
00:03:36 Questions about children with special needs
• Oleg Gennadievich answers the question of how a family can help a child with special needs such as autism or Down syndrome.
• He emphasizes that such children need help in the form of organizing their life, and not just water and fresh air.
00:09:09 Relationship Tips
• Oleg Gennadievich gives advice on how to behave properly in relationships with women, emphasizing that it is impossible to force a woman to do what she does not want.
• He also talks about the importance of load distribution and time between work and family to avoid depression and relationship problems.
00:15:26 acceptance of one's character
• The author says that women often face a relationship problem because of their character and advises to accept it.
• Taking your character helps to calm down and become more attractive to men.
00:21:35 Love and Relationships
• The author discusses the importance of understanding love and relationships, emphasizing that love does not belong to a person, but is the basis of his existence.
• He also talks about how important it is to give and serve in a relationship, not to demand and expect.
00:26:55 dependence on another person
• The author explains that addiction to another person can lead to the destruction of life and advises to turn to God to restructure the melody of love.
• He emphasizes that a person cannot rebuild his love melody, and that this can lead to a loss of interest in life.
00:30:27 Love and its influence
• The video discusses that love has two directions: tug-of-tight and return.
• If a person loves another very much, he begins to burn in this love and exhausts another person.
• If the other person is restrained and delicate, it can increase the fire of love.
00:35:11 Reciprocity and family choice
• A woman should choose a family if she loves a man who achieves her.
• A man must change the situation so that a woman loves him.
00:40:19 Danger of love and faith in God
• Love can be dangerous if a person begins to believe in another person, not in God.
• Faith in God and serving close people is the way to true love.
00:45:17 love and relationships
• falling in love is egoistic in nature, and this applies not only to the relationship between husband and wife, but also to relationships with children.
• A mother who experiences love for a child may experience difficulties because of her affection for him.
• When a child grows up, he becomes self-sufficient, but affection for love remains with the mother, which can cause tension in the relationship.
00:48:17 Faith and love
• Faith in God and His Holiness helps a person become strong and self-sufficient, and also strengthens his self-esteem.
• If a person believes in God, he becomes resistant to the melody of love experienced from the opposite sex, and remains true to his relationship.
00:52:50 Love and family
• Love for a person has a different nature than love for God.
• Love for a person must be right to keep the family and make people happy.
• Love must be strong and sacrificial to give yourself to a loved one.
00:55:02 Love and Relationships
• The first step to relationships is the patience and understanding of the nature of another person.
• Respect for the nature of another person and his deeds, thoughts, motives and views.
01:00:05 True love and acceptance
• True love requires the rejection of one's feelings and melody of love for the sake of a loved one.
• It is important to understand that the first stage of love is the acceptance of a person as he is, and not just his appearance.
01:05:00 sincerity and gratitude
• Sincerity in a relationship is happiness, but it has a different nature than falling in love.
• Gratitude and work on yourself are important components of a deep relationship.
01:11:27 Relationships and Divine Nature
• Relationships between a man and a woman are necessary for the development and filling of life.
• If people do not develop as individuals, relationships can collapse.
01:17:20 Human and Divine in people
• In every person there is a divine and a human.
• It is important to respect the divine in man and not exaggerate him.
01:20:18 Acceptance and austerity in relationships
• Acceptance of a person means to see only good in him and not to see bad things.
• Auspiciousness is a training to see cleanliness in a person and not to succumb to his weaknesses.
01:24:22 Love and selfishness in relationships
• Love is faith in a person and a willingness to sacrifice for him.
• Selfishness in relationships leads to scandals and misunderstanding.
01:26:12 Gratitude and acceptance
• Gratitude is the answer to love and acceptance of a person.
• Without acceptance and gratitude, relationships can be destroyed.
01:34:17 Differences between men and women
• Men and women are born for different purposes: men for victory, women for happiness and pleasure.
• Men should respect and support women, inspire them to act and not force them to do austerity.
01:40:47 Female nature and respect
• Women are very receptive to knowledge and need support and inspiration.
• Respect for a woman means acceptance of her nature and supporting her in life.
01:43:31 Mother Earth and Her Personality
• Mother Earth is a divine person who controls every planet.
• Love without understanding of personality is impossible, and understanding of the personality gives real relationships and true love.
01:52:25 Respect and love
• Respect for another person means to see the main thing in him, not the secondary one.
• Respect for yourself and loved ones helps to maintain relationships and love.
01:56:31 Faith and forgiveness
• Faith in movement, life, love and strength helps to overcome difficulties and maintain relationships.
• Forgiveness and patience help to restore relationships and create new connections.
02:00:56 Acceptance and kindness
• Acceptance of a person as he is helps him develop and understand how to do it right.
• Through acceptance and kindness comes knowledge and understanding.
02:03:25 Love and severity
• The author says that sometimes people who hate us can be the reason for our spiritual growth.
• He emphasizes that love consists of two halves: service and rigor.
• Strictness should be delicate and not destroy the personality of a person.
02:08:37 Three stages of love
• The first stage is blind love when a person enjoys another without paying attention to his feelings and needs.
• The second stage is love in which a person feels another, but considers his principles above him.
• The third stage is humanity, when a person is above his principles and is ready to accept the other as he is.
• The author emphasizes that it is important to accept another person and wish him happiness, even if it is contrary to our principles.
02:14:39 Acceptance and rigor in relationships
• It is important to be strong and accept loved ones, as we often behave inhumanly due to weakness.
• Love and austerity must be in the right proportions so as not to push off a person.
02:20:40 Love and strictness in a happy relationship
• Love between happy people is of strict nature, but inside they are very kind and soft.
• Strictness is based on gratitude and does not repel if it is based on love.
02:27:18 Respect and sincerity in relationships
• Respect and sincerity are high stages of relationships that can only be achieved between strong and developed people.
• Sincerity is possible only between people who are ready for mistakes and repentance.
02:32:19 Discussion of relationships and femininity
• Discussion of the control and role of a woman in a family where she monitors the purity and correctness of the relationship.
• It is mentioned that a woman must be holy to accept her nature and keep her purity and correctness in a relationship.
02:39:14 QUESTIONS AND ANSWER
• A woman asks the question of how to change the relationship with her husband, who has become aggressive and angry.
• Answer: It is important to accept your nature and not change yourself in order to maintain harmony in the relationship.
02:42:06 development of relationships and acceptance of the husband
• It is mentioned that a woman should develop good rigor and patience in herself in order to change her husband.
• It is important to save the family and take care of your husband, forgive and endure, pray and accept him.
• It is mentioned that the relationship is already improving, and the woman has already passed through the mountain, and it becomes easier for her.
02:49:17 Health and love
• The speaker talks about the importance of health and self-care, so as not to become "walking for yourself.".
• It is mentioned that if a person does not invest in his health, then his computer stops working.
02:50:34 Love and Relationships
• The speaker discusses what is important for a woman to be beautiful and self-sufficient to attract men.
• It is mentioned that a woman should be prepared for the fact that a man can annoy her if he does not meet her expectations.
02:54:29 Heart training
• The speaker suggests repeating the phrase "I wish everyone happiness" to prayer to train your heart and win fate.
• It is mentioned that it is difficult to understand, but it is possible if you train.
