Если вы верите в своего ребенка, а не в Бога, и живете только им, то у него в сердце возникает жуткое отторжение от вас, которое он никак не может преодолеть.
Sometimes it happens that children, having ceased to be under the influence of their parents, stop communicating with them. In this case, it may be that there were no quarrels, just an adult daughter or son begins to pull away. Having gone to live in a separate apartment, they stop calling and asking their parents how they are doing and coming to visit. Parents do not understand this behavior, and they usually ask their children if everything is okay. Having heard that everything is fine, and in general there are no problems, parents remain perplexed as to what is causing the lack of previous warmth in the relationship. In this article we will look at why this situation occurs and what the solution may be.
About the reasons for the situation
Oleg Gennadievich, in numerous consultations and answers to questions, claims that there is only one reason why children do not talk to their parents - simply the mother or father (most often the mother) really wants to experience happiness from their child. And God in his heart protests this, because He wants parents to learn to believe not in their children, but in Him. But a mother, as a rule, wants to live not in her own happiness, but in the happiness of her child. And this is normal for a mother, because all women live for the happiness of their relatives: husband, children, parents. The female psyche is designed in such a way that she experiences happiness not from her own life, but from the lives of those she loves. But there is one thing.
If you believe in your child, and not in God, and live only by him, then a terrible rejection from you arises in his heart, which he cannot overcome in any way. In such a situation, even if he begins to communicate with his mother, what does she do? She immediately begins to demand more communication from him. But he already gives her as much as he can, so her questions really stress him out: “Why do you so rarely communicate with me? Why do not you call me?" etc. As a rule, a mother in this state cannot even talk normally to her daughter or son when they call her. She immediately remembers that she misses their communication and begins to demand more attention.
“At the same time, you shouldn’t think that the child doesn’t care.” He is also worried and worried, but he cannot call his mother, because she immediately begins to bill him, begins to put pressure on him with her emotions, and complain that he does not call. She may not even say it, but she thinks so. In short, we can stress our loved ones so much that they can’t even stand it. This is beyond their strength. And there is only one reason why we do this - we want to experience happiness not from God, but from a loved one. This is attachment. This means that if we want to experience strong happiness from something, we will 100% experience strong suffering. Where you become attached, it means that suffering will come from there,” notes Oleg Gennadievich.
About maternal affection
All women are very attached to their children, especially their sons. As a result, they begin to be capricious and push their mothers away from them. They cannot withstand this onslaught. Therefore, the Vedas say that a woman should stop being dependent on her child and, in general, on loved ones. She must be dependent on God. You need to learn to give your life to God, and not to the child, because this only spoils the child.
If a mother keeps her son close to her and does not want to send him to the army, then she thus curses his life. If, on the contrary, she says with faith in her voice: “Go and defend your homeland, I will pray for you,” then she blesses him. And here you need to think: do you want to curse your child or bless? Because when we are in a deficit state, on emotions, we simply drink the blood of our loved one. We curse him. You can, of course, say that this is not so, because it is very difficult to agree with this.
“A mother is strongly connected in heart to her son, and if she demands more happiness from him, then she thus draws strength from him. This is your child, and you are taking away his strength in this state. His vitality is melting because you constantly want to enjoy your relationship with him. This is the mother's selfishness, and it destroys the child's life. This applies to all mothers, emphasizes Oleg Torsunov.
However, if we bless our child, pray for him, take strength from God, then in this case we invest strength in him, and then our hearts become quiet, calm and joyful. We have faith that both me and the child will be fine, and I don’t have to communicate with him too often. But if we just worry, it means we are lazy at heart.
About a difficult astrological period
If a son or daughter does not communicate with his parents, this also means that he (she) most likely has begun a difficult astrological period, which simply takes away the opportunity to communicate warmly with loved ones. Therefore, in this case, prayer is needed. You need to tune in to God, to those who pray, and try to forget about the child. At this moment you will feel how it becomes easier for him. First, your anxiety will pass, which means you are already defeating his fate. But when a person worries and does nothing, this is called laziness of the soul. A lazy soul constantly complains and does nothing.
For example, your kitchen is a mess. There are two options: you can sit down and start wailing, or you can take it and wash the dishes. But to wash, we need to calm down, because when we worry, we cannot take serious action. Therefore, a person has two ways to live: one is to worry, and the other is to wash his life. And there is a very interesting point here.
- All women are convinced that when they worry about their child, they are doing him good, that in this case they are righteous. Remember: worrying about your child is very bad. If you have concerns about him, take it and think about God, start praying and overcome this anxiety within yourself, and then everything will be fine. And the fact that you are worried, you don’t need to justify yourself with it. It doesn't mean you're so high-minded for worrying about your child. We need to pray and not worry,” Oleg Gennadievich emphasizes.
About prayer that conquers fate
If you pray and your anxiety persists, this does not mean that it is a useless activity. The only question is the amount of work, how much effort needs to be put in. Some people think that while praying you need to think about your object of prayer, but this is not so. During prayer, you need to forget about the source of your worries and think about God, only then will your loved one feel better. When you pray like this, you give him strength. But you give him not your strength, but the strength of God.
God helps when we forget about ourselves, and this is not easy. Thinking about your son also means thinking about yourself, because at this moment we are thinking about our destiny, and our children are also our destiny, so it is still the same activity.
— Often a woman thinks that if she thinks about her child, then she does not think about herself. He just thinks about himself. In this case, it is necessary to distract yourself from yourself, otherwise it will be impossible to defeat fate. Pray and think about God, and then He will begin to cleanse the fate of your loved one with incredible power. It will be a miracle for you. At first you will feel that you feel better, this means that he feels better too, because he won’t tell you this, but you will feel better, explains Oleg Torsunov.
At the first stage of victory over fate comes calm. At the second stage, a loved one begins to listen and perceive us, and at the third, he begins to conquer his fate himself. This is how you can help a loved one. But this does not happen quickly, it lasts for months. This recipe is universal in any life situation and is applicable not only when there are problems with children. This is the law of a happy life, which makes it possible to defeat fate, no matter what trials are in store for us.
