The Vedas say that the feeling of endless love sung in books has no price. Because the price has only what is built by its work.
The problem with most couples is that we often confuse love and love. We do not understand that falling in love is unstable and quickly leaves. While love requires daily work on relationships and not everyone can do it.
God connects people and holds them together, giving them pleasure, that is, falling in love. However, this gift is given for a while so that later people can build a real relationship full of love and care. Such relationships mean: I do not need anything from a loved one, I want to serve him. In this case, gratitude in the heart of a loved one will act in such a way that he himself will begin to live like this. If the spouses come to this understanding together, then they will have endless happiness.
- If a woman does not demand anything, she simply serves her husband, then from him whether he wants to or not, gratitude will go. Why? Because there is disinterestedness in service. In a simple relationship without God, there is no disinterestedness. We are selfish by nature. And our mistake is that we expect reciprocity from our loved ones, and they just need to serve. But there is such an interesting phenomenon. That at the beginning of family life, God gives people a certain amount of reciprocity in the form of falling in love, and it seems to people that this is true love and real life. So know that this is an illusion. It's just a bonus, - explains Oleg Torsunov.
This period in a relationship is comparable to a demo version of a computer program. While the demo is working, the person likes everything. She shows him how things should be. Then the validity period ends, and you already have to do without it. The same thing happens in family life. People meet and think that everything will always be fine with them, although they know that everyone suffers in family life. But the person does not want to think about it. He believes that he is lucky and enjoys the relationship to the fullest, pulling all the love out of his loved one. This means that there is a demo version of the real relationship. But it cannot last forever, so after 2-3 years of marriage, it ends. Together with her in the relationship ends in love. Why is this happening? Because everyone tried to satisfy their feelings without caring about the other. So, having pumped out all the good energy, people begin to sort things out or scatter in search of a new love.
Summer is leaving, my good. all people. If people met to go crazy with each other, enjoy, experience their finest hour, then it will all end, and nothing good will remain, - Oleg Gennadievich notes.
The Vedas say that the feeling of infinite devotion that arises from falling in love is of a false nature. It is sung in many songs, described in books, but in fact it has no price. Because the price has only what is built by hand. True love does not come just like that, it comes as a reward in the form of gratitude. Therefore, real kindred feelings can only be experienced in the service of a loved one. And if we want to be enjoyed, then there will be no love in these relationships. There will be only suffering. Because falling in love and true love have nothing in common, and this is the problem of many families. It is difficult for us to understand that falling in love with a loved one gets us by fate, and happiness in relationships is already the work of our hands.
“Know that the love you believe so strongly will definitely pass. It cannot be saved for life. Because it doesn't belong to us. This is what is given to us from above. God gives us this, and there is no our merit in this. Try to understand it. When a person feels that he is given it by mercy, he protects it, - emphasizes Oleg Torsunov.
Often we are not inclined to believe that a loved one comes to us from above. We think we met by chance or found it ourselves. Therefore, people converge, and at the first difficulties they try to disperse. In this case, they do not understand that God deliberately connected them so that together, despite suffering and pain, they find harmony and become stronger. The Vedas say: God gave you this man, because he has the same shortcomings as you. Because only with him you have a chance to work out your karma (fate), correct your character and attitude to life. He is your key to happiness, so a love and desire to start a family arose between you. It is difficult for us to understand that in fact we do not solve anything in this world. All we can do is serve our loved one without demanding anything in return. When we come to this understanding, we do God's will, and He gives us as much happiness as He has.
- You can not exchange a box of gold for a ruble. When a person felt something real in a relationship, it gives him so much happiness and depth. How can you trade it for treason? impossible. Therefore, there can be no gaps in the relationships that are built as a result of true love, - explains Oleg Torsunov.
When we are able to serve our loved ones without wanting anything in return, their gratitude reaches such a degree that they are ready to listen to our revelations. When a person is very grateful, he is ready to listen to what shortcomings he has, what faith in God is. This is called love.
If a person truly serves his loved one and sees him as a soul, he cannot allow the thought that it is possible to go to someone. In this case, the relationship becomes pure and sublime, and nothing can break them. God himself will protect such a family. If people have achieved such an understanding, then in the next life they will be together on the higher planets and go together to the spiritual world. In the Vedas, such relationships are called eternal love.
Source: Lecture «How to take care of loved ones. What are related feelings? September 27, 2014, Anapa.
